H! Confrontation is a part of life. To be successful in relationships we need to learn how to confront. Confrontation is not always easy, but it can be doable. Once you learn these 7 steps, confrontation can become just another part of life.

The first rule of thumb, is learning that we need to process with ourselves before we confront another person. There are some issues that we need to deal with ourselves and they can be resolved by holding boundaries with ourselves. Other issues will require us to speak with another person. The key is learning to understand the difference. Here are some of the 7 simple steps to help you get started.

1. What is the issue as I see it?

Before we confront another person, we want to be sure we can clearly identify the issue as we see. It is important to remember, this the issue we see and this is how we are defining it. That does not mean someone else will view it the same... and they don't have to. This is, however, a great place to start the ball rolling. Write down what the issue is from your perspective. If you are vilifying another person or only focused on someone's behavior, I would encourage you to keep thinking about the issue and try to identify what it is you need rather than what you are getting.

2. What is one possible solution?

Have you ever tried to confront someone, and in the middle of the heated argument they asked you what you wanted and couldn't think of anything... That does not feel very good, especially since there was more than likely an issue that prompted you to confront them. This is why it is import for us to sit down and write it out before we confront someone.

3. Who do I need to speak to in order to resolve this issue?

This one can be tricky. Some times the issue we are having cannot be resolved by speaking with person who immediately comes to mind. We want to stay open and be sure we brainstorming the real issue we are having and who can help us to resolve it.

Check out this quick video for all 7 steps.

You can also read about the 7 steps and much more from How to Stop Chasing Rejection. Available now on amazon.com

Thanks so much for stoping by. I am hoping freedom for you in our relationships as you add these steps to your healthy relational tool belt!

Take good care!