Books are a great inexpensive resource to help you along your journey. All of our books offer education on relational trauma. We cover everything from: Codependency, Being Scapegoated, How to get through a breakup, Getting out of a toxic cycle, and how to master boundaries for good!
Check out our books below for more great resources!
*Important NOTE: All of our books are for educational purposes only and are NOT a replacement for treatment from a professional treatment provider.
Congratulations on your engagement! This is an exciting time for you both. No matter your age or how many times you have been married before, the premarital book can benefit you and your partner. The book will discuss some heavy topics and ask difficult questions. It can be scary to poke and prod at a relationship, but asking these difficult questions is getting you closer to answering the most important question of all. Am I/are we really ready to get married? Albert Einstein said, “Intellectuals solve problems, geniuses prevent them”. What if, instead of focusing primarily on fixing failing marriages…we focused more on preventing them. Could this put a dent in our sky-high divorce rates? If you are ready to dive in, hold on and let us see if you both are ready to give that matrimonial response of “I do!”
Codependency hurts. When we chase rejection we make relationships a prison. Eventually we will make it our goal to escape it. This book helps you understand HOW to stop chasing rejection. You will learn why relationships are not working for you, barriers you have when it comes to setting boundaries and what a healthy relationship looks like. It's time to heal and learn what it means to relate and love in a healthy and whole way.
"I can’t tell you how this book just changed my outlook on life and the amount of inward work I need to do. As I wipe a tear from my eyes I am encouraged. I read the entire book in one day. I will continue to refer back to this often." -Speechless
Have you ever felt like you shared too much personal information with someone only to do it again and again? Is it difficult for you to share how you are feeling and once you finally open up, you find yourself oversharing? Do you struggle with trust in your relationships? Do you struggle with relationships in general? If you have never heard of the term boundaries, or have never understood how to have boundaries, then this book is for you. This book will address these questions and provide insight on where to start. The information in this book can help you to learn how to take your rights back!
"Love love love this book and model. All I can say is this book and model are so worth the time to read and learn. She has simplified setting boundaries into a process that is easy to use and empowers reconnection to self. We purchased books for all of our staff and are using this model at work to teach our clients. Excellent!" -Terra
Toxic cycles are painful. They are often buried beneath the shame and guilt we experience in a relationship. Rather than seeing the toxic cycle for it is, we get caught up in it and carried away by it. It doesn’t have to be this way. You can learn how to map out your toxic cycle and ultimately develop an escape route. I cannot wait for you to turn your feelings of frustration and helplessness into feelings of strength and peace. Take back your life today and breakup with your toxic cycle!
"Excellent. thought provoking. This book was easy to read and very well written...it made me reflect and see things differently." -Lexi
If you are reading this book due to a breakup, whether recent or not, let me start by saying I am sorry. I am sorry you are hurting and that it did not work out. The pain of losing a relationship can be devastating. People rarely get into a relationship, dating or marriage, to end it. Trying to get through a breakup on your own can feel impossible and overwhelming. This book is designed to help you process your experience. The processing exercises will help you make sense of the breakup and help you to understand what you went through. Regardless if you just broke up or if the breakup occurred years ago, you can use this book to help you heal. There is hope. Even when you cannot see it or feel it, it is there. Welcome to I Can’t Believe How Much This Hurts, I am glad you decided to take this journey with me.
"This is the most practical book I have read of HOW to work through a break-up. Olivia Verbeck gently, tactfully provides healing assignments to help an individual process and move on from heartbreak. She is balanced, allowing both good and bad memories, as she prompts the reader to consider, evaluate, grieve, and grow from loss. Within 48 hours of reading the book I gave it to a daughter struggling with a break-up and a former student that just announced her divorce. It is an outstanding tool for anyone dealing with a break-up." AP Teacher
It is difficult to describe the pain and loneliness a scape experiences. Shame and abandonment are a few of the tools used to create a scapegoat. Most scapegoats believe it is their job to be of service to anyone who asks something of them. They often have no boundaries, get stuck in people-pleasing cycles, and have a strong fear of rejection. You may have been scapegoated in childhood, or found yourself in a toxic relationship as an adult where you were scapegoated. Regardless of your scapegoat origins, the issues and ideas discussed in this book can help! Get ready to dive in and see how to be a scapegoat no more forever!
"I have read a lot about scapegoating but this book made everything more clear for me. It gave language to all that shadowy experience : clear, simple easy to understand language that help you understand exactly what has happened to you and why. This book also clarifies what is happening to you now -as a result of all that, and how to handle it. I couldn’t recommend this book more to anyone that have went through or still going through that predicament." -Chris
It is hard to know where and how to set boundaries in relationships. It can feel like we master our boundaries in one area only to begin all over again in another. There are times we need to set and hold boundaries in the relationships we have, but there are definite barriers we face. We may feel guilty, be afraid to hurt someone’s feelings, or be unsure of how to set and hold the boundary. Also, when are we supposed to set boundaries? What determines if we are supposed to set a boundary? If you are faith based, for most of us, the larger goal is, “How do I set boundaries in a way that honors God?” The Relationship Trust Boundary Model addresses each of these questions and concerns. The model will help you learn how to set boundaries regardless of the situation, under any circumstances, and in all types of relationships. You can learn this model once and use it for the rest of your life.