Discovering the Dysfunctional Family System That Creates a Scapegoat

Hi!

Scapegoats do not choose the role of "scapegoat", it is assigned to them by someone within their family system. The role does not work or will not last if the rest of the system refuses to go along with the roles. We tend to not see these dysfunctional family roles in systems where siblings bond and have each other's backs.

However, in a dysfunctional family system, you will find separation and division amongst the siblings. Being the scapegoat is truly a lonely journey. You can feel that you are on the outside looking in.

Sharon Wegscheider-Cruse discovered the dysfunctional family roles when looking at a family system that had someone in the system struggling with alcoholism. We know that these dynamics apply to more than homes where someone struggles with addiction.

You can check out Wegscheider-Cruse's work here:

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A scapegoat is created in a dysfunctional family when the family cannot or will not deal with the shame. The scapegoat is created out of a need to rid the system of the shame they feel. The pain, shame, anger, blame, etc gets placed on and in the scapegoat.

Check out this video for more information on why families create a scapegoat.

It is vital for scapegoats to understand they did not choose this role of scapegoat and that at any point, when they are ready, they can leave this role of scapegoat behind! This is not a one and done but rather it is a process. We can heal and move forward for good!

Healing involves learning more about scapegoats. How they are created, boundaries you will need to get yourself free, issues scapegoats face, and how to move forward and live a life YOU love!

There is full course available here to help you!

You can also read A Scapegoat No More Forever available here:

Whether you find information from a video, a course, or a book, I hope and trust you will find what you need! You are worth it and you matter.

Take good care and all the best to you on your journey of being a scapegoat no more forever!