How Toxic Shame and Guilt Are Tools to Control Scapegoats

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Have you ever wondered how scapegoats are made? Well.... one way is through the use of toxic shame and guilt. When shame and guilt are used as tools to control they are toxic and this is part of how scapegoats are made.

Shame and guilt are normal emotions and we all feel them at different points in our lives. However, when someone uses them as tools to control and they become toxic, this is not normal. This how we can begin to develop behaviors that will help us to survive the toxicity but they do not serve us in our lives. We tend to carry the shame and guilt with us into each new situation and other circumstances we face. The shame and guilt control us long after the person/people are out of our lives.

You can watch this video for more information on how shame and guilt create and control a scapegoat:

Scapegoats face issues as a result of being scapegoated. The toxic shame and guilt we received can keep us from living full lives. We will have poor boundaries especially in feeling overly responsible for other people's problems. We can also do all the giving in our relationships and chase rejection.

You can read more in A Scapegoat No More Forever

If you discover you have been a scapegoat I hope learn more about toxic shame and guilt. You can also learn more from John Bradshaw's book Healing the Shame that Binds You found here: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0757303234?ref_=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cp_ud_dp_680KGQPVBNT292Z8HBR1_1&bestFormat=true .

Keep learning and growing. There is a full course available on how to be A Scapegoat No More Forever

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